Raising Twins: Am I Doing This Right?

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Raising Twins: Am I Doing This Right?Self-doubt.

It’s prevalent for new moms. I’m a new mom and surprise! I have twins.

A boy and girl.

A perfect family. All we need is a dog and we’re set! Well, on paper that’s what it looks like, but in real life, I have no clue if I’m doing all this right.

My twins are 3.5 years old. I take care of them everyday and I wonder if that’s the best thing for them.

I’m an Introvert Mama

Is that bad? I don’t know, but I’m not a big fan of play dates, going to classes or even going outside for that matter.

I like staying around home, going on walks around the neighborhood or to the park. I make an effort, of course, to set up play dates but this year, I’ve set up probably four total.

The result? Well, my twins don’t really like other kids. They rather play with each other. Is that typical of twins?

Probably, but of course, I feel it has something to do with me.

I Need a Long Umbilical Cord

This fall, to help them get ready for school….next year…I signed them up for swimming and skating lessons.

These activities are done without the parents. The parents stay, but don’t participate.


My kids just aren’t ready to be without me or their dad or another family member. Is that normal for almost four years old?

I’m not sure. So, are they like that because of me? Are they shy because of me?

What about school next year? Will they be able to say goodbye to me and go to school? Will I be able to say goodbye and not be a wreck while they’re gone?

Being a First Time Mom is Tough

I know other twin mommy’s and I feel they have it all together. Their twins are well-adjusted, they always have a smile on their face and of course they just know what to do.

Me – I’m lucky if I showered and have a shirt without a coffee stain on it. My twins are usually over-dressed because to me I’m always cold and I forget my cell phone and snacks.


Raising twins is hard. Especially if you have doubts.

So, what do you do with these doubts?

You’re Not Alone

First-time moms are all the same basically. We just parent by the seat of our pants. We may read a few parenting books, but of course, those strategies never work for our child.

Since starting TwinsMommy I’ve met so many wonderful moms online. It’s awesome to know that I can lean on them anytime and since they are bloggers and trying to grow their business like me, I know they can relate to what I’m going through.

You Don’t Give Up

It was hard for me to stop swimming lessons. I don’t give up and I don’t want to teach my twins that either.

I know we will re-visit swimming later on, and the thing to remember is to keep trying and don’t give up. My twins will excel on their own.

They will eventually feel safe enough to join a class while mom sits and watches.

It will happen.

Your Child is Happy

You feed your child, enrich their lives and take care of them. If they’re happy then you know you’re doing the right thing.

This is something I have to remember every day.

My twins are crazy and I work hard to not yell or fly off the handle. They are just 3.5 years old and are learning expectations and boundaries.

And I know, when mama is happy, my twins are ecstatic.

Happy wife, happy life as the saying goes

There are A Lot of Firsts in Your Life

Raising twins is just another first in my life. I had similar doubts when I started blogging and freelance writing.

There will be a lot of headaches, worries and laughs

The other day we went to a park and there was this sign:


Want to know what my son said?

“This means no dogs and this means no volcanoes.”

To, which I replied,

“So, do you see any dogs or volcanoes here at the park?”

My son,

“No mommy. No dogs or volcanoes. That means we can play now.”

I just go with it.

Are you a first-time mom? Have twins?